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“One Man’s Opinion” by Gordon Curvey

Is there a problem between African American ladies and African American men in America? Yes. Sorry to say this folks but there is a problem. Just look around.

Not only that look at statistics. Most black kids grow up without a man in the household. The question is why readers. It is a problem when African American kids grow up without a man in the household. No strong male role model.

Why is it that black ladies and black ladies cannot seem to get along as a whole? Is it the man’s fault or ladies fault? This is the question that needs to be answered.

I think a lot of black ladies are hung up on how “cute” a fella is. I checked out “Let’s Talk About Pep” on TV for the last few weeks and I do not like what I saw.

Pep who is a member of the legendary hip-hop group Salt-N-Pepa is looking to find a fella after fours years without one. So she hangs out with her sista freinds that includes NBA star Jason Kidd’s ex-wife.

One show they went out on a “cutie run” seeking only cute guys to kick it with. All Pep’s friends are single black females. Here is the question. Why does the fella have to be cute? How come he can’t be a average looking dude with a great personality? Why does he have to have large money. How come the fella can’t be a fella who treats you like a lady should be treated?

In my opinion (and I know black ladies will not like this) I think African American females are to choosy when it comes to black men. And it is a problem.

There is not a black man shortage. Of course there is a problem with black men and black ladies having sex, the sista gets pregnant, has a child and the child grows up not knowing his dad because the dad is nowhere in sight.

I do not want to put all the problem on black females but I truly believe sistas are too hung up on looks instead of how the fella might treat her. I am TIRED of hearing sistas say “Girl he is soooooo cute” How come the sista can’t say “Girl the man treats me like a lady should be treated”.

And I don’t mean a cat spending all his cash on her. I mean a man and a lady just meeting, talking on the phone, going out on dates and just getting to know each other a REAL BASIS.

I am sorry to say at this moment of my life, I am without a lady I can love. As the late Teddy Pendergrass sang “It feels so good loving somebody, when somebody loves you back” I want to feel this feeling again.

I know I am not the best looking cat, but I will tell you this, my mom taught myself and my brother how to treat a lady. I just want to find a good lady who will love me and I love her back. It is that simple.

Believe me folks. There is not a shortage of black men. The problem is in my opinion is sistas need to get off this “cutie run” stuff and being hung up on how a dude looks. Worry about getting to know the guy. Worry about this guy being your friend and then a lover. And if you have child, worry about if this fella is going to be a good daddy to the child. A role model.

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